Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!By
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – 6 Steps to Moving Beyond Fear.
“Whenever we take a chance and enter unfamiliar territory or put ourselves into the world in a new way, we experience fear. Very often this fear keeps us from moving ahead with our lives.” Susan Jeffers, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.
Everyone feels fear at one time or another.
There are so many to choose from:
loss, rejection, public speaking, failure, success, ending a relationship, changing careers, driving on the freeway, spiders (ok, that’s more of a phobia), getting old, being attractive, getting sick, making a mistake…the list goes on.
The main function of the subconscious mind is to keep you healthy, safe and alive. The fight or flight instinct has had a long time to be ingrained into us. Over many thousands of years, the primary purpose of this instinct was to keep us from being eaten by saber tooth tigers, starving to death, or to protect us from evil warlords who would rape and pillage our villages.
Today, the threat of physical annihilation is mostly gone. But, what about our emotions? Our emotions are also stored in the over 95 % subconscious mind level and truly emotional pain can be as devastating or impactful as physical pain.
Whenever we find ourselves in a situation where we will face potential rejection, or failure, we can experience emotional pain. Again, our subconscious mind, whose job it is to keep us healthy, safe and alive, can create strong resistance to doing things that may be scary or have the potential for emotional discomfort.
“No matter what degree of insecurity you are feeling, a part of you knows there is a lot of wonderful “stuff” within you just waiting to be let out, and NOW is the perfect time for opening the door to the power and love within.” Susan Jeffers
The good news is that emotional pain can’t kill you and that’s why doing something you know you need to do, even if it’s scary, can be the most important tool to overcoming fear. Most of the time, once you’ve actually done something scary for the first time, you find it really wasn’t that scary at all and the fear goes away.
There are several ways to overcome fear of doing something new.
The first step is to get the subconscious mind on board with the new behavior. Dropping positive empowering thoughts into your mind before falling asleep and upon waking is a great way to reprogram your subconscious mind to assist you in making positive changes.
Example of an empowering thought: I can do anything I decide to do, with joy.
Step 2: The Power of Making a Decision
Decide today that no matter what you will succeed, you will move forward whether it’s painful or not. Remember, emotional pain is a perception. It is only real if you make it real.
Write it down. Goal setting is discussed in almost every book on “success” for a very important reason. When you write something down, not only is it a powerful part of the decision process, it sends a powerful message to your subconscious mind. It solidifies that no matter what, this is the direction you’re moving in. The subconscious mind will go to work to find the resources within you and out in the universe to help make it happen.
Step 3: Quiet the Chatterbox
There is a broken record of thoughts that keep you stuck from moving forward. (We discuss this in more detail in the Monday Morning Power Start series – opt in the box upper right.)
It’s the ego’s constant judgment that keeps us stuck from moving forward. Because we’re always judging everything and everyone, we get a sense that if we do something, others will judge us.
Well then, what if we get it wrong or get embarrassed? Only the self-serving ego cares about such things. Your higher mind or higher self is only interested in your spiritual growth. Recognize when the ego is trying to hold you back. This is the false self and will never get you to where you want to go. Be aware of it and love yourself anyway.
“Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.” Susan Jeffers
Step 4: Play the “What If” Game.
Typical Fearful thinking is like this:
What if I do this and it doesn’t work or I get hurt? Or I fail?
Instead focus on this:
What if I do this and it works out? What could my life be like?
How much more painful will it be if I look back and I didn’t at least give it my best shot? Sometimes this kind of pain is more devastating than the pain of just doing it.
Learning to ask the right questions is an important part of this. Remember, the subconscious mind does not judge what you ask, it only provides the appropriate information to your conscious mind based on past experiences when you got hurt. Or, conversely, when you succeeded. This is all based on the questions you ask.
Step 5: Avoid All Negative Self-talk.
Your words are powerful as we found in Monday Morning Power Start when we explored the effect words have on water from “Hidden Messages In Water,” by Dr. Masaru Emoto.
Our words affect us too. Decide today to only say things in the positive tense and avoid all negative words. (see affirmations for some ideas on how to frame your words.)
“There is no such thing as failure…only growth and learning.”
Step 6: Accept Responsibility for Your Own Experience
Ultimately you are responsible for how you feel. It has been proven in scientific studies that our thoughts create our reality. Take responsibility for your thoughts, without guilt or blame. Realize you have spent a life time being unconscious about your thoughts and feelings! It will take a little practice to get into a better habit. Know that you can change your thoughts, by becoming consciously aware of them and then making different choices.
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In Love and Light,